The Handover Plan: Audio Edition
A staged plan to stop reminding, so your teen starts pushing themselves.
- Hand responsibility back in stages, not all at once
- Exact words to say instead of reminding
- What to do when they drop the ball
- Written for parents of 14 to 17-year-olds
Instant download. Read it on your phone tonight.
What's inside
The staged Handover Plan: which responsibility to hand over first, how, and when to add the next one.
The Scripts: word-for-word lines for what to say instead of reminding, nagging or stepping in.
The “Drop the Ball” Playbook: what to do the first time they forget, so one slip doesn't undo the plan.
Who it's for
Parents of capable 14 to 17-year-olds who only get things done when reminded. If you've tried stricter, softer, rewards and taking the phone, and nothing has stuck, this is for you.
How you get it
A download link appears straight after checkout and is emailed to you. It's a PDF you can read on any phone, tablet or computer. Nothing is posted.
Refunds and guarantee
Follow the plan for 30 days. If you're still reminding them about everything, email us and we'll refund you in full. This is in addition to your rights under Australian Consumer Law.
The reminding is the reason they don't remember.
It sounds backwards. But ask yourself who's actually responsible for their homework right now.
If you're the one tracking it, chasing it and worrying about it, their brain has no reason to. You've built a system that works. It just runs on you.
So the harder you push, the less they need to push themselves. It's not laziness, and it's not your fault. It's just where the responsibility sits.
This isn't about getting them to listen to you more. It's about getting them to the point where you don't need to say it.
What to say instead of reminding
Most of the change is in a few sentences. Here are three from the plan.
“Have you done your homework yet?”
“What's your plan for tonight? I'm not going to check. It's yours now.”
“How many times do I have to tell you?”
“I'm going to stop reminding you about training. If you miss it, that's between you and your coach.”
“Fine, I'll just do it myself.”
“I won't do it for you, but I'm happy to help you work out when you will.”
Examples of the kind of scripts inside the plan.
Who's carrying their responsibilities?
Tick everything that's true in your house this week.
You ticked 0 of 5
Tick the statements that sound like your week.
They're already carrying a fair bit. The plan will help you hand over the rest without it turning into a battle.
You're sharing the load, and it's costing you both. This is the sweet spot to start handing things back.
You're carrying it for them. That's fixable, and it's exactly what the Handover Plan was written for.
Questions parents ask
My teen is 14. Is that too early?
No. The plan is written for 14 to 17-year-olds. Starting at 14 gives you more time to hand things over before they leave home.
Won't everything fall apart if I stop reminding?
Some things will slip at first. That's expected, and it's why you hand over one thing at a time. The Drop the Ball Playbook covers exactly what to do when it happens.
Is this about being stricter or softer?
Neither. It's about moving the responsibility to them, so you don't have to be the enforcer or the negotiator.
What if they just don't care?
Most teens who seem not to care have simply never had to. When something is really theirs, they usually start caring the first time it costs them something small.
How do I get it?
Straight after checkout you'll get a download link on screen and by email. It's a PDF you can read on your phone, tablet or computer.
What if it doesn't work for us?
Follow the plan for 30 days. If you're still reminding them about everything, email us and we'll refund you in full. This is on top of your rights under Australian Consumer Law.
In two years, nobody will remind them.
The parents who start handing it over now are the ones who get to watch them do it on their own.
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